Trust is the glue that holds relationships together, but sometimes the bonds unravel. According to several major studies, about one in five married adults have cheated on their spouse or significant other. Even if you avoid a major betrayal, you’re still likely to have a friend who talks behind your back or an acquaintance who gives you the cold shoulder.
Once trust is broken, it can be restored, but it takes a lot of work. The following strategies can help restore damaged trust.
What to Do When You Damage the Trust
1.Apologize. Be sure to express your regret for what your actions and acknowledge the impact of your actions on others. Don’t make excuses. Really listen to the other person and hear what they have to say about your actions.
2.Skip the details. You don’t need to share every intimate detail of what you did with the person you harmed. People may ask you for the details, but it will only hurt them more.
3.Make amends. Take full responsibility for your actions. This might mean offering financial compensation or making a public apology.
4.Change your behavior. Don’t do it again. To earn Trust, you have to walk your talk. Take time to create new habits and avoid going down the path of destruction again.
5.Resolve underlying issues. Ask for help for professional sources, if needed. Talk to a professional therapist or a friend. Get help!
6.Be patient. Time heals all things. Realize that you have to give others the opportunity to see that you’re determined to make real changes.
What to Do When Someone Damages Your Trust
1. Accept responsibility. If you are the injured party, you have to look at your part in the situation. Be honest about your contribution to the issue, and that gives you the powerful to change and create a different outcome. Work on you. Take a look at your self-esteem and your personal style.
2.Suspend judgment. Don’t judge others. You have to focus on the full picture of your relationship not the one transgression. Play fair. Don’t keep bringing up the past.
3.Make contingency plans. While you are healing the relationship, take time to be with yourself or with other people in your life. Don’t dwell on the loss of the damaged relationship. Make some new friends you can hang out with while you’re trying to patch up an existing relationship.
4.Honor your strengths. You will survive. Take a look at all the challenges you’ve already survived. It is miserable to have your trust violated, but you will growth from the issue and still have a good, production life.
5.Manage your expectations. Set healthy boundaries in all of your relationships. Know that it’s human to be fallible. Examine what is just a minor slight and a pattern of abuse or misconduct. Practice forgiveness. When you forgive others and yourself, it encourages your peace of mind and makes it more likely that others will be more compassionate with you, too.
6.Move on. Some relationship can never be restored, but many relationships can become stronger after trust has been tested. The big idea is that you need to know when the relationship is broken and move on.
Trust is vital to a healthy and every strong relationship. Every romance and friendship bring a life lesson with it. Learn how to trust with all your heart and learn how to forgive others and yourself. Trust is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship.